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Self Assessment Questionnaire: Am I codependent?

Here are some of the main features and characteristics of codependency, presented as questions for you to answer:

    1.   Do you have an unhealthy dependency on your relationships? Yes/No
    2.   Do you say ‘Yes’ when you should be saying ‘No’, at a cost to yourself? Yes/No
    3.   Does your family have a history of addiction or psychiatric illness? Yes/No
    4.   Have you been in previous harmful relationships, putting up with behavior that you shouldn’t? Yes/No
    5.   Have there been signs of addiction in your past or present relationships? Yes/No
    6.   Have you put up with physical, sexual or verbal violence or bullying? Yes/No
    7.   Do you work long hours for no extra reward, or not take your allowed holiday? Yes/No
    8.   Have you covered up for others’ drunken or intoxicated incidents, lying on their behalf? Yes/No
    9.  Have you bailed someone out financially, lending them money, paying gambling or drug debts, or turning a blind eye when they’ve stolen from you? Yes/No
    10.  Do you feel guilty for standing up for yourself? Yes/No
    11.  Do you feel anxious if things are not perfect? Yes/No
    12.  Do you try to control others’ behavior? Yes/No
    13.  Do you find it hard to trust others? Yes/No
    14.  Do you take excessive precautions against real or imaginary disasters or accidents? Yes/No
    15.  Do you need constant reassurance from your partner/spouse/child? Yes/No
    16.  Are you prone to jealousy? Yes/No
    17.  Do you feel that if you don’t do what your loved one wants, they might leave you? Yes/No
    18.  Do you often lie awake watching your loved one sleep? Yes/No
    19.  Do you try to anticipate what mood your loved one is going to be in when you next meet? Yes/No
    20.  Do you purposely start arguments to get your loved one’s attention? Yes/No


If you’ve answered ‘Yes’ to five or more of these questions, you may fit into this category. Don’t put off seeking help. On the surface it might not appear as harmful as a chemical or alcohol addiction problem, but being dependent on someone who constantly lets you down is bad for self-esteem and can lead to depression. Ask yourself if you’re happy with how you respond to your family, friends and colleagues.

If you’re living with an addicted person and you’re codependent, not only are you suffering but you might not be helping the person that is ill, if you keep tolerating their lies and excuses. Children copy our behavior, so if you’re a parent it’s important to seek help, look after yourself and put appropriate boundaries in place.

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